My Nasty Habit

As of late, I’ve developed a nasty habit: saying the word hate. I know that may not seem as bad as developing a drinking problem, an addiction to drugs, or some other habits, but to be such a small word, it can carry a lot of weight and be a burden to you or those around you.

Hate is described as an intense or passionate dislike towards someone or something.


“I hate this” and “I hate that” are thrown around without thought. When I say that I hate something, I do not necessarily mean that I passionately dislike it, but it has been a rather easy way for me to describe something. I’ve said,

“I hate Logan’s Roadhouse”

“I hate that cashier, she is always rude”

“I hate that color”

“I hate this movie”

“I hate Alabama football” (that may actually be true).

Those sentences are sometimes said jokingly, but other times it may be a fair representation of my current feelings. Even if I do not always truly hate the people or things that I talk about, I do believe that is something that will create negative energy for yourself. Negative energy will make you unhappy, and ultimately it will lead you towards an unhealthy life.

I think the word is even strong for children to use, but children are still developing and trying to understand their feelings, and it might just be the right word for them to use in order to find out how they feel about a situation. As an adult though, I think we should choose our words more carefully.

Hate may start as a small word I regularly use to describe something, but it could end up being a toxic emotion that depresses me, angers me, or even leads to a serious health issue. The old saying is true: Hate is a strong word.

As someone that deals with depression, I struggle, but work hard, to not spend my energy on negative situations — so today I will attempt to eliminate this nasty word from my vocabulary. Instead, I’ll work to clear my mind from this mental garbage, spread love, and think in a more positive manner.

Since we use this day to honor and remember the life of a man that brought hope to so many in America, I thought it would be appropriate to quote Martin Luther King, Jr. “I have decided to stick with love…hate is too great a burden to bear.”



Marriage Looks Good On Us

“I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.”

This quote from The Notebook is perfect, because I also feel that I’m just a common man leading a common life. And I love a woman with all my heart and soul, and love will always be enough.


When I graduated college 4 1/2 years ago I never thought I would find a women to spend my life with. I had trouble finding women similar to me that I enjoyed to be around  — especially not one I would want to marry. But all of that would eventually change.

About 3 years ago, I was making a decent income at the Honda Manufacturing plant in Lincoln, paying bills, and had a potential career job, but I soon became unhappy working through their repetitive routine. I knew God placed me there for a reason, but I was unsure of why at that time. After a year of working there I started praying to God everyday, multiple times throughout the day. Talking to him was the only way to make it through my shift. Finally, there was a day that I broke down and asked God “Why?” I wondered why he would place me somewhere that I hated so much. I knew it was good money, but the money wasn’t bringing me happiness.

The week after I asked God “why” is when I first laid eyes on Natosha. She was being introduced as the newest associate on our processing line. I remember thinking about how beautiful she was, but it was about a week later when we actually talked to each other for the first time. We were both placed offline working together on a process, and I immediately knew after that process that there was something about this woman. I had finally realized why God put me at Honda.

We both stayed and worked overtime each day so we would have extra time to talk and get to know each other better. We began having lunch together everyday, and soon it would turn into a beautiful relationship.

We found love when we least expected it. Sometimes its funny how God’s plans come together.

Less than a year later, God blessed us with an opportunity to leave Honda by moving to Louisiana for a job opportunity. This not only allowed us to find jobs better suited for us, but also gave us more time to spend with each other and help grow this relationship.

Only months after moving to Louisiana, I proposed to Natosha at Vulcan Park while on vacation in Birmingham. Vulcan was where we had our first official date and our first kiss as well. I already knew her answer, but that moment she said “Yes” filled my heart with happiness and joy – I couldn’t wait to make her my wife!

DSC_0415I’m more than pleased to say that we’re finally married! The wedding was perfect, and everything we had been waiting for. It feels amazing to be married to my best friend – she is the only person that can put that smile on my face, the one who finds a way to stay positive in a sea of negativity, my biggest fan, and she loves me in a way I never knew was possible.

When I said, “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part,” I meant it. It doesn’t matter what life tries to throw at us, we’ll always be there side-by-side fighting through it. I look forward to spending the rest of my life with her.

We never stopped believing in love, and we feel blessed to have finally found it. I’ve been told by numerous people that marriage is both fun and rewarding. I can’t wait for us to find out for ourselves.


Where is the love?

I’m about to rant and make some animal lovers mad, but then again that’s what this website was intended for…my rants and ramblings.

It is sad to see how much we have started to value the life of animals, particularly dogs. With that being said, I want to go ahead and clear something up – I love animals, and I can’t wait to own a dog. But it seems to me that we are valuing the life of animals more than our fellow humans.

Every time I turn on the tv I see a new commercial that is showing beaten and abused animals while trying to get me to donate fifty cents a day to help these animals. This is truly a great cause, but what about the people that are beaten and abused everyday? Have we forgotten about them? Do we care more about animals now?

I don’t know the answer to those questions, but I’m guessing that people are becoming more aware of the problems with animals than people.

Michael Vick is the most popular story of abuse being done to animals in the past ten years. I don’t condone the behavior of Vick, but I feel that he did his time for his actions. I’ve never seen people more enraged by the way the dogs were mistreated though.

NFL player Donte Stallworth got 90 days in prison in 2009 for killing a pedestrian that he hit while driving under the influence. Where we’re all those enraged people when Stallworth only received 90 days for killing a human? Is a dogs life more valuable than a humans life now?

Both of these incidents were close to each other, but I know for a fact that the story about dogs was more popular and fueled more rage. I’m sure a lot of people didn’t even know about the NFL player that killed a human. I’m just mad to see the turn that people have taken. I have nothing wrong with showing love for little Scruffy, but don’t forget to show some love to your neighbors too.